text: So I think important is that നമ്മൾ ആ awareness that ഇത് ഇങ്ങനെ നടക്കുന്നുണ്ട് ആ awareness stage-ൽ എത്തണം and not to hold your partner as the enemy. You're not going to see he's not your enemy, she's not your enemy, you don't have to win over them.